About

The Successful Grownup

So what exactly is a "successful grownup?" I can't say that I have all of the answers to that question, and it certainly will be different for each of us depending on what we value, what culture we grew up in, who our parents are (or were), what our beliefs are, and what our experiences have been along the way. Success for many people is about what we do and what we accomplish. For others it's more about who we are. All definitions are acceptable, but for this blog, I will focus more on who we are as opposed to what we do. "Success" in this regard is up for grabs and you will decide on your own exactly what that means, but hopefully you will find bits of information, ideas, and stories here that will help you in your own personal evolution and development.

Who Am I and Why Am I Writing This Blog?

I have been a psychotherapist for 30+ years and even prior to that, have always had a strong interest in personal development. I have learned a lot from the people I've had the pleasure of working with over the years, and I think have picked up some valuable information that may be useful. My work has blended with my own personal experiences also, and I have made good use of psychotherapy myself. I'm a firm believer that anyone who is going to sit in the "therapist's" chair should have also spent a great deal of time in the "client's" chair. Psychotherapy is a relationship and both therapist and client learn and grow in the process.

This blog is a continuing compilation of some of the things I have learned through the therapeutic process. I am also the oldest of 8 children, have been married for many years, and am a parent, so my personal experience will come through from time to time as I write.

It is both wonderful and daunting to be a human being, and if I have gained nothing else, I have developed a great deal of compassion for what it means to be human. Hopefully what I offer in this blog will smooth the way a bit.

~BarbaraFrazier